Gotta Get Over Rejection

Characters, hang on.

Yeah . . . Hi,

I’m still not over the rejection.  But I try not to think about it.  I’ve read about how I’m supposed to handle it  from seasoned writers and from agents.  I’m telling myself, it is normal to be rejected.  Accept rejection.  If I don’t, it means I’m not being a team player in the world of writing and publishing.  To be hurt and devastated by rejection is to not have what it takes to get through the whole process, even throughout the career.  So this is what they all say.

I’m trying, believe me.  Actually, the rejection itself is not what bothers me.  It’s the loss of the opportunity to become a client with the particular agent I wanted that bothers me.  It is also the “what do I do now (with my story)” that makes me wallow in my situation.  I wish agents had time to give a short summary of why they didn’t like it.

She liked my pitch, so it’s not the story idea.  I know that it’s a saleable story.  How?  Because I see that certain writers are going to be writing about this aspect of paranormal genre in upcoming books.  I had the idea over three years ago, but I can’t take-off with it, because I’m a beginner.  Published authors (I won’t name them), can take off with the idea – they’re already through the door.  I can’t even reach out and touch the door, let alone get “one foot”  in it.

So here’s what I’m going to do. Like always, go spend money on stuff that has preparatory purpose, but only serves to satisfy my procrastination appetite.  You know how it goes. Instead of sitting down and writing, you go and buy colorful pens, highlighters, post-it tabs, dry-erase boards, index cards, how-to books, writing software, and the list goes on.  I’ve actually already bought that stuff, plus more – I bought a chain that will have a pendant for every chapter completed, and the only way it joins the string, is it has to connect in with the story.

I already have this stuff, so not much I’ll need to buy.   I had only put it to minimal use in months past (basically, until I got bored with it, like a two year old gets bored with a toy).  It felt like I could prepare for forever.  So I really did only the minimal and got to the beef of writing.

But, I’m going to pull this stuff back out – . Well, first I’m going to clean my room, and organize it into my writing studio.  Writing studio.  Sounds musey,  huh?

Yes, I have a plan.  I’m not going to write for about a month.  I’m going to learn.  How-to books, here I come.  Dean Koontz, Ann Rice, here I read.  My story, my patient characters – hang on.

Dear Rejection:  Feed my soul.  Carry me through the process of making great strides in improving my work.  Drive me to want nothing but the best words, sentences, scene structures, and characterizations that can tell the story I want to tell in a way that will be enjoyed by all who read it.



WoRd oF tHe daY,

blear  – (bleary-eyed) n

1 : to make (the eyes) sore or watery

blear (adjective form)

: dim with water or tears
2 : obscure to the view or imagination

source:  courtesy of Merriam Webster Collegiate Dictionary


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3 Responses »

  1. It sounds like what’s bothering you most is also the lack of “Why?” of the rejection. Have you considered following up and asking the agent why?

    • I have a feeling I won’t get a response. Then that’ll be a second sort of rejection. She is a top agent and she pointed out she was busy . . .

      • Well, you’ll never know if you never try. It also sounds like you’re taking this really close to heart. Certainly she could be that fantastic dream agent all writers want, but that certainly doesn’t mean she’s for you. The fact she wasn’t caught up by your story just highlights that fact. No, hear me out.

        Getting a good agent (or publisher, or publicist, or editor) is all about finding a real, solid working relationship. In a sense, it’s like dating. There are plenty of cute, beautiful, intelligent people out there that you’d love to take out on a first date, but very few of them are boyfriend or girlfriend material for you. It’s not because they’re lame and lousy, and it’s not because you’re not good enough. It’s simple a matter of you two not clicking.

        How many close friends have you had in your lifetime? Now, compare that number to how many people you’ve met in your lifetime.

        Being an author is a lot like that. You will meet and talk to thousands of agents, authors, and publishers. How can you expect the first or second one you come across to be your perfect match?

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